These are the top signs you’re the side dude in a woman’s life.
Even when you’re deeply in love with your partner, relationships can be challenging and confusing. Before you formally enter into a committed relationship with someone, there is also that strange time when you are unsure of what to do with your feelings. Should you mention that you want to date only one person? Should you remain silent and let things proceed naturally?
Well, whatever you do, the first thing you will need to know is where you stand. And if you are with someone you cherish and she looks at you for only one thing — like your money, your sex game, or whatever — then you’re in trouble.
Here are the top signs you should look out for, no matter where you are in the relationship.
You don’t know her friends, or you’re introduced as anything other than a boyfriend or someone she’s dating.
It’s a bigger red flag if you’ve been seeing her for a while and none of her friends know you, even though not being introduced as her boyfriend is unquestionably a red flag. Women typically enjoy bragging about their boyfriends to their friends.
She’s most likely not committed to you if you haven’t met some of the people who are most significant in her life. Either you’re still in the trial period with her or she’s still in the game. At some point you’ll hopefully get the picture when you realize you’re the booty call.
All of your conversations are mostly about her.
It is a major issue when she constantly requests your attention but never finds the time or energy to do so. Aside from it being completely selfish and immature; it also makes it clear that you’re not the only guy in her life. After all, she can simply go out tomorrow night with a guy who makes her forget about her problems rather than listen to your problems.
Think about it. Imagine you’re at the grocery store, and the checkout clerk begins telling you about her day. How much attention and time would you give to that? About how many minutes before you explode inside with that inner voice that says “Who gives a shit?!” Well, that’s how the woman feels about you when it seems like she can barely even remember what you said five minutes ago, let alone last week.
She’s not ready for a relationship if she won’t listen to you and still wants everything to revolve around her. Additionally, if she consistently persuades you to agree with her, even when she’s wrong, it’s a sign that she only wants to feel good about herself.
She guards her phone like a vicious bloodhound.
She uses passwords on everything. She always has her phone with her, even when using the restroom. Sometimes she may even have to excuse herself to take the call because “it’s her mother” or “her son,” “her daughter,” “her best friend with an emergency,” or “her daddy.”
Taking photos together is like throwing holy water on a vampire.
She will either overreact or just find a way to avoid taking photos with you when the opportunity presents itself. Females love taking pictures of themselves, especially attractive women, so if it seems to be a deal breaker all of the time, then you’ve got a problem — she doesn’t want any evidence.
She needs a heads up before you come around and you can never show up unannounced.
Before you appear anywhere near her, proper notice is required anywhere—at work, school, home, etc. She doesn’t want to be seen with you anywhere; she isn’t aware of who else will be around or may pose a threat to whatever she’s hiding.
You’re not the most confident person you know, and she’s picked up on that.
Being confident is one of the best ways to draw a woman to you. Women naturally don’t want you to be an asshole and conceited, but they should be able to tell that you value yourself. You can tell a woman is dating you for convenience and dating someone else to feel like a woman if you let her walk all over you and make all the decisions.
Don’t belittle yourself, and don’t be afraid to express your desires. Your chances of getting your love interest to want to see you exclusively will increase if you can be assertive and respectful at the same time.
Her reason for never taking the next step in the relationship is some variation of her being “confused.”
Women who are “confused” are either ending a relationship and seeing you casually or have just gone through a breakup and aren’t yet ready to commit to someone again. Either way, it’s a stall tactic.
There will be no doubt if she truly likes or loves you. She will make it clear through her behavior that she wants to advance your relationship. You can tell she cares by the way she looks at you or by the extra effort she makes to see you when she’s not at work.
If you’re spending money, time, and effort on this woman and she is always “confused,” then either she needs to see a shrink or you need to drop her and move on — or both.
